Forgiviness is not mortgaging negatives feelings rather it’s about releasing negative feelings . Psychologists define forgiveness as a conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment or vengeance toward a person or group who has harmed you, regardless of whether they actually deserve your forgiveness.
Just as important as defining what forgiveness is, though, is understanding what forgiveness is not. Experts who study or teach forgiveness make clear that when you forgive, you do not gloss over or deny the seriousness of an offense against you. Forgiveness does not mean forgetting, nor does it mean condoning or excusing offenses. Though forgiveness can help repair a damaged relationship, it doesn’t obligate you to reconcile with the person who harmed you, or release them from legal accountability. Before Christ took His last breath He said in Luke 23:34, “Father forgive them for what they are doing.” Notice He said doing??! The Roman soldiers were gambling for His clothing (John 19:23–24); the criminals on the crosses to either side of Him were reviling Him (Matthew 27:44); the religious leaders were mocking Him (Matthew 27:41–43); and the crowd was blaspheming Him (Matthew 27:39). Surrounded by this most unworthy lot, Jesus still prayed for them.
When people wrongfully hurt us we got to remember that Jesus paid the penalty for every past, present, and future sin. So when we choose not to forgive we are literally harboring a debt that has already been paid and we fail to extend the gift of love, grace and mercy that is extended to us when we fall short of God’s glory……..
I am reminded that my spirit is wiling but my flesh is weak (Matt 26:41) and I get it….if you teach the Word of God you will be held to a higher standard. James 3:1 says, “Dear brothers and sisters, not many of you should become teachers in the church, for we who teach will be judged more strictly.” James is asserting that teachers, by teaching, are claiming to know what they ought to do and, therefore, they have greater judgment if they fall short. Mainly because, teachers are given a gift from God that enables them to take the deeper truths of His word and make it easier for understanding and application by their students. Simply put, knowing more makes one more accountable. Stephen Covey states, “ACCOUNT-ability breeds RESPONSE-ability!” The Point Jesus was making in Matt 26:41 is that the spirit is indeed willing! In other words, Jesus is saying, “Lay hold of the fact that within you is your human spirit, which I gave you, and that is eager, willing, and desirous to do what is right. Come to experience the reality and force of the spirit that I placed within you, and that will be quickened with my Holy Spirit. Your spirit is willing!” Jesus was teaching Peter, James, John and now us the defining principle of accountability.
In Isaiah 53:3 of the Message Bible’s paraphrase we read a brutally transparent breakdown describing our beloved of God but man forsaken Savior. Peterson said, “The servant grew up before God—a scrawny seedling, a scrubby plant in a parched field. There was nothing attractive about him, nothing to cause us to take a second look. He was looked down on and passed over, a man who suffered, who knew pain firsthand. One look at him and people turned away. We looked down on him, thought he was scum. But the fact is, it was our pains he carried— our disfigurements, all the things wrong with us. We thought he brought it on himself, that God was punishing him for his own failures. But it was our sins that did that to him, that ripped and tore and crushed him— our sins! He took the punishment, and that made us whole. Through his bruises we get healed. We’re all like sheep who’ve wandered off and gotten lost. We’ve all done our own thing, gone our own way. And GOD has piled all our sins, everything we’ve done wrong, on him, on him.” It’s was the Birth of Christ that gave us hope for eternal salvation but it was through the Risen Christ we made peace with God and secured eternal salvation.
Talk about putting it in proper perspective!! The Message’s paraphrase in Deuteronomy 7:9 truly hits the nail on the head, “GOD wasn’t attracted to you and didn’t choose you because you were big and important—the fact is, there was almost nothing to you. He did it out of sheer love, keeping the promise he made to your ancestors. GOD stepped in and mightily bought you back out of that world of slavery, freed you from the iron grip of Pharaoh king of Egypt. Know this: GOD, your God, is God indeed, a God you can depend upon. He keeps his covenant of loyal love with those who love him and observe his commandments for a thousand generations. But he also pays back those who hate him, pays them the wages of death; he isn’t slow to pay them off—those who hate him, he pays right on time.” Jesus said in John 14:15, 21, “If you love me, obey my commandments” and whoever has My commandments and keeps them is the one who loves Me. The one who loves Me will be loved by My Father, and I will love him and reveal Myself to him.” We are never too big for our own britches. Our response to God’s call is simple; Love God and our neighbors as we do ourselves. I love me some Jesus therefore, I am choosing the latter and not the former; who’s with me??
If you ever thought for second that God forgot about you, check out the Message Bible transliteration of Isaiah 40:28: “Why would you ever complain, O Jacob, or, whine, Israel, saying, “ GOD has lost track of me. He doesn’t care what happens to me”? Don’t you know anything? Haven’t you been listening? GOD doesn’t come and go. God lasts. He’s Creator of all you can see or imagine. He doesn’t get tired out, doesn’t pause to catch his breath. And he knows everything, inside and out. He energizes those who get tired, gives fresh strength to dropouts. For even young people tire and drop out, young folk in their prime stumble and fall. But those who wait upon GOD get fresh strength. They spread their wings and soar like eagles, They run and don’t get tired, they walk and don’t lag behind.” After reading this refreshing word, I am ready to get up and get moving; who’s with me?!
What happened to embracing patience? People nowadays are always in a rush and I am not referring to roadway driving aka road rage. Patience is not just a ‘one-and-done’ event; it’s a lifestyle-a fruit of God’s spirit (Gal 5:22). How many of you yell at your computers or smart devices just because it runs a millisecond slower than usual? The demand for instant results continues to seep into every corner of our lives, and not just virtually.
The Pew Research Center’s Internet & American Life Project summed up a recent study about people under the age of 35 and the dangers of their hyperconnected lives with what sounds like a prescription drug warning: “Negative effects include a need for instant gratification and loss of patience.”
It’s sad to say but we’ve come to expect things so quickly that people can’t wait more than a few seconds for a video to load. Impatience breeds anxiety, fear, discouragement and failure. Patience creates confidence, decisiveness, and a rational outlook, which eventually leads to living a life that is more productive rather than counter productive.
The reality of life is simply; things take time! Patience is not only a virtue-it’s grace. Patience is not just about waiting for something… it’s about how you wait, or your attitude while waiting. I am making a concentrated effort to practice patience, will you join me in living out this fruit of God’s spirit?!
Jehovah O’saynu (our maker), I know that I have little strength and that in my own power I would fall apart – but I praise Your name that Your grace is sufficient for all my needs – that Your power is made perfect in my own weakness, sickness, and loneliness.
Jehovah Tzidkaynu (our righteousness), I long for the power of Christ to rest and remain in me – to dwell richly in me, so that like the apostle Paul I can even rejoice in my weakness because Your power is upholding and sustaining me every step of the way.
El Shaddai (all sufficient) I thank you and praise Your holy name for the perfect power is Christ that is made perfect in me. I wouldn’t know strength if were not for your limitless grace or mercy! Thank you El Chaiyai (God of my life) in Jesus’ name, I pray amen and amen!