“You Can’t Help Someone Who Won’t Help Themselves”
Let’s be honest, some people aren’t looking for healing—they’re looking for validation to stay broken. You can pour in wisdom, love, and truth, but if they’re committed to the story that suits their dysfunction, nothing will change.
A victim mindset will never lead to victory. Proverbs 23:7 reminds us, “For as he thinks in his heart, so is he.” If someone believes they are always the victim, they will live like one, even when freedom is within reach. Choosing not to get better is choosing to stay bitter—and bitterness doesn’t just poison the heart, it seeps into relationships, opportunities, and blessings. Hebrews 12:15 warns us, “See to it that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many.”
Even Jesus didn’t heal those who refused. In John 5:6, He asked the lame man, “Do you want to get well?” God will not override a heart determined to cling to pain, because His love invites—it does not force.
So Beloved, remember 1 Corinthians 15:33: “Do not be misled: ‘Bad company corrupts good character.’” Love people, pray for them, and point them toward truth—but don’t chain yourself to their prison cell. You’re called to walk in freedom.
Pray With Me:
Father God, thank You for teaching me to love without losing myself. Give me wisdom to help without enabling, to speak truth without fear, and to walk away when You say it’s time. Heal those bound by bitterness and set them free by Your power. In Jesus’ name we pray, believe, receive, and praise. Amen.
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