We have all tasted or dealt out a little contention in our days. Whether we were the sender or the receiver doesn’t matter. Self preservation (PRIDE) often lead to contentious behavior. Did you know that contention is a spirit? Phil 2:14, “Be ever on your guard against a grudging and contentious spirit..” It’s very difficult to fellowship with someone operating in this spirit. Solomon suggest that it’s better for a husband to isolate himself from such a person than to share a home with his wife (Prov 21:9). Commentator Paul Koptak said, “Scripture makes it clear that quarrelling is a sign not of godliness, but of worldliness (1 Corinthians 3:3; James 4:1). Believers must make no room for contentiousness in their lives, taking care not to yoke themselves to those characterized by such an attitude—whether male or female—as it results only in ruin. If one is married to a quarrelsome spouse, God will provide the grace to lead by example and encourage him or her in what is right, seeking God’s glory and the good of all involved (Matthew 5:43–48; Proverbs 25:21–22; 1 Peter 3:1–2; 1 Corinthians 12:7–16).